Sing Your Song

This question has been rattling around in my brain for awhile, "What is my purpose?"

Then the other day my daughter asked, "Why are we here?" "What is the purpose of this life?" I asked my husband, the closest thing to omnipotence I could find in a hurry, and his response was, "Who the (insert word that rhymes with duck) knows?"

I few moments later I walked into the living room and saw a pair of shoes lying on the couch (no joke), an empty yogurt container on the floor, and the TV on. After screaming down to my 17 year old to come and pick up after himself I swiftly turned to my daughter and said, "I think I am here for the sole purpose to nag your brother - and he is here, clearly, for the sole purpose to drive me crazy." Well at least we have each other.

The questions continue to rattle around in my brain. It's comforting to know that I am not alone with these questions. Everyone is asking them, right? 

 Everyone's life has a purpose. Our purpose is multi-layered and changes over time, as do we. That's what keeps life interesting. It's possible that we get stuck in thinking that our purpose has to be grand. It doesn't have to be and we don't have to know all the answers.

"The bird does not sing because it has the answer, it sings because it has a song."

We each have a song and i has many verses. (I choose mine to be sung by Colm Wilkinson* because he could sing the phone book and move me into action) Everyone's song is different. Some songs are for the world to hear and some are for our ears only. And that's okay. The thing is to brave enough to go out and sing! 

And maybe one day we will all be able to say to ourselves, "I am doing what I am supposed to be doing." 

If you can think it,
You can dream it.
If you are willing to do the work,
You can have it!
Whatever IT may be...

Start Singing.
Magda

*In case you don't know who Colm Wilkinson is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsYnhVITf9E

Clean Slate vs. Blank Sheet of Paper

Ever been stuck? Just plain ol' stuck, wondering all sorts of things about your life? The feelings can be daunting or exhilarating or a little bit of both. One thing I know for sure is being stuck is no fun. It means there is no movement, no place to go, no growth, no adventure. Think about it - being stuck is yuck!

Every day life moves forward. We can or cannot control what is going on around us or even to us. I have found that mostly we cannot control it. Life keeps going and things keep happening. Some times we need to get off the wild ride of life and watch it for a while maybe even go to another slower ride just to catch our breath or even choose to stand on the other side of the fence and watch for awhile (but not too long).

With any change life hands us a Clean Slate or a Blank Sheet of Paper - it depends on how you look at change. I am famous for saying "Change is Difficult" mostly because I am not too fond of change but I am beginning to understand that without change there is no room for growth - without change you can become stuck.

Change can be refreshing, like a Clean Slate. A fresh start to do something completely different and maybe even fun. The clean slate effect comes in to play when we are in control of the changes in our lives. These are scary times but can be exciting as well.

Change can be yuck, like staring at a Blank Sheet of Paper and not knowing what to write. A paralyzing and ginormous task with no way of knowing how to begin or begin again. The blank page effect comes when change happens to us completely out of our control. These are scary times and usually never exciting.  These are the times when we can really get stuck and they are usually accompanied with being angry, resentful, frustrated and afraid.

The challenge is turning that Blank Sheet of Paper into a Clean Slate. Looking beyond the fear and possible bitterness to the idea that change can be good. That change, whether our own doing or brought on by outside forces, means we can get off one ride and go on another and maybe it's time to even choose a new park altogether - to start over someplace fresh and new. All we have to do is change our views and be brave enough to move forward and buy a ticket.

Next.
Magda