Life is full of stages or shifts. Almost from the day we are born we are shifting. Most shifts are easy going natural occurrences experienced without too much upheaval. We learn to become independent creatures in our youth. We shift away from our families towards our friends. We begin to make decisions on our own and learn to take ownership of the good and the bad, to deal with the consequences and move on hopefully changed from the knowledge of our experiences. We shift towards responsibility of a world bigger than our own myopic views and begin to see things on a more global level. These shifts usually rank low on the Richter Scale.
Then there are the shifts that are larger in scale: Moves, Job Changes, Marriage, Divorce, Sicknesses, Births and Deaths. These shifts happen and they can bring the house down. They are the shifts that require a different kind of inner strength. They mess with our equilibrium. Everything we have known shifts in such a way that we need to almost rebuild as a new person, a new neighbor, a new wife, a new mother. These shifts are exciting and celebrated.
When the shift is a loss the life we move into is also new, not a new life of our choosing all the time but a new life just the same. From this unasked for newness can come strength. Rebuilding oneself with the strength of the love of someone lost can make the shift easier. It's a day by day process of rebuilding and with any hope when shift happens again we'll be ready.
Magda
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